Fun Ways to Survive Valentine’s Day When You’re Single and Dateless

Valentine’s Day is here again!  Some are looking forward to dinner dates, surprises, gifts, flowers, chocolates and even marriage proposals, and then there are some who just want to survive the day and cope with being single and dateless.  This year,  I belong to the latter.  Given my husband’s nature of work as a seafarer, I’ve been “single” and dateless for I-don’t-know-how-many-valentines but that doesn’t mean that I’ve come to dread the love month.  If you are like me whose special someone is away and you two can’t go on a date  and exchange silly gifts, or you’re one those who’s still single and dateless, here are the fun ways of spending Valentine’s Day and surviving it unscathed.

• Invite your single and dateless friends on a date.  This is one thing I’m looking forward to every Valentine’s Day.  I’m blessed to have friends who don’t sulk just because they’re single and dateless or because their husbands are also away.  Eating out with friends, DVD marathon, talking about anything under the sun, and just having a good time is something that I always enjoy.  Who says that Valentine’s Day is for lovers only?

• Pamper yourself.  Just because you don’t have a dinner date doesn’t mean you have to look like you deserve it for being “losyang” and “ngarag”.  Valentine’s Day is a good excuse for visiting the spa and getting a good body massage, going to a “sosyal” salon for a new look, or just getting a nice manicure and pedicure.  Love and pamper yourself first before looking for someone whom you can love and pamper.  Who knows, that guy you’ve been trying to catch will finally notice you and this will be the last time you’ll go dateless on a Valentine’s Day.

• Read a good book.  For a bookworm like me, any day is exciting as long as I’m reading a good book, especially a novel written by my favorite authors.  The works of Judith Mcnaught and Lisa Kleypas are compelling and intelligently written. When I encounter a very nice quote that really makes me “kilig”, I share it with my friends so we can all be “kilig” and giggly like teenagers.  Keep calm and read; let your mind wander and before you knew it, the day is over.

• Surprise your loved ones with gifts or flowers.  I remember a male colleague giving a single flower to each dateless female from our department and I have a sister-in-law who gives us flowers every Valentine’s Day.  I remember giving a friend a dinner for two gift certificate so he can go on a date with his long time crush who just became his girlfriend.  You can also cook a special meal for your family, especially  your parents.  I think that giving your loved ones gifts during Valentine’s Day is such a sweet and thoughtful gesture.  It feels good to receive something even if it’s not from your special someone and feels even better when you’re the one giving.  Go on and spread the love this Valentine’s Day.

• Give yourself a break.  If you’re the type who thinks that being single and dateless  is such a big deal, common, give yourself a break.  You probably already have enough pressure in your work or family life, you don’t need to torture yourself with another pressure and feel  “depressed” just because you’re single and dateless. Don’t be so insecure and desperate and grab just any guy for the sake of having a date or sulk the whole day as if your in a middle of some tragedy.  Insecurity and desperation are simply ugly and no guy wants to spend time with an ugly person. Maybe you need some loving..maybe you just need a break..and maybe, you don’t need another person to do that for you.

I hope these simple tips will help you survive Valentine’s Day.  Remember, happiness is a state of mind.  As long as you’re happy within yourself and you’re surrounded with people you love, being single and dateless on a Valentine’s Day is no big deal.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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