I’m back! Just thinking of not blogging for several weeks makes me very eager to open my laptop and write down my thoughts but unfortunately, these past weeks have been very busy, chaotic and mind boggling.
For one, the hubby came home after nine months of being onboard. We’ve been busy spending family time together.
We also dedicated our one month old Baby Sean to the Lord. That was a busy albeit fun event.
The last and the main reason was that my helper had a two-week emergency leave. That was where chaotic and mind-boggling came in. I’ve gone without a helper in the past but that was before hubby came home and before I gave birth so it wasn’t that difficult with only a son and myself to take care of.
In between taking care of my two-month old baby, watching over my three-year old son at school and doing household chores, I just didn’t know where I could fit blogging in so I had to forego it for a while, waiting for that time when I can finally sit down and have a personal relationship with my laptop again.
Looking back at those two weeks without a helper, I realized how far I’ve gone from being a mom to a supermom. Oh yeah, supermom ako! If cooking on one hand while holding a crying baby on the other hand, or helping Elijah with his assignments while breastfeeding, or eating while holding a baby is not super, I don’t know what is.
So how did I survive those mind boggling weeks and ended up victorious? In other words, how did I level up to supermom status? Here are my lessons and tips:
Don’t procrastinate. A supermom especially one who has a two month old baby doesn’t procrastinate. I learned that whatever immediate chore you have to finish, you have to seize the moment when the baby is sleeping to do it or you’ll end up finishing nothing at all. Plan your chores, rank them in order of priority and finish the immediate one the moment your baby closes his eyes and sleep to oblivion.
Relax ka lang. It’s difficult to uphold to your supermom status when you’re baby is crying and “demanding” to be cuddled while your toddler is asking you to look for that Captain America toy he misplaced (Mommy, you forgot the shield, where’s the shield?) and while your husband is asking where are those socks (what socks?) he washed the other day. When everyone is demanding and having a bad mood, you just have to take a deep breath, relax and do what you can. After all, a supermom is a cool mom..most of the time.
Ask for help. If Darna has Ding, a supermom has to have her fair share of supporters. I can’t bring our two-month old baby to school and watch over my toddler at the same time. I can’t go to the wet market with two kids in tow. I can’t do the laundry because I don’t like doing it. Thank God, I have very supportive in-laws who took care of Baby Sean while I was at school watching over Elijah. And thank God, my husband did all the laundry, including my pricey underwire bras which I almost hadn’t recognized after he took them out from the washing machine. His voluntary laundry jobs more than made up for perfecting the art of ruining bras and his innocence in the art of diaper changing and poop cleaning. I still can’t get over those bras; they were so malformed and needed to be replaced (with his own money of course) but I don’t have the heart to tell him that..yet.
You only have two hands. No matter how super you are, you only have two hands and you can only do so much. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t be disappointed if those clothes remain unfolded for several days, if your kitchen is not squeaky clean or if your floor have spots because you haven’t had the time to mop it. You only have two hands and although you’re so super that you can multitask, you’re still not perfect that you can do everything at the same time.
Have a break, have a me-time. No matter how chaotic the day was, there’s still that time when everyone else is asleep and everything is quiet. Make that time, no matter how short, your me-time. Remove that already chipped nail polish, read a good book, read your Bible, say a little prayer, soak in the bath tub, watch your favorite movie or just update your Facebook status to let your friends know you’re still alive and kicking. Forget about your tasks, savor and enjoy your me-time for there’s still tomorrow and tomorrow is another day.
Sometimes, what we see as a bad situation is actually not that bad because we learn a lot of good from it. Yeah, it was bad that I was so ngarag because I had to do almost everything on my own, but without that, I wouldn’t know how far can I go, I wouldn’t discover that I can be a supermom just like the other moms I so admire and I couldn’t proudly say “kaya ko pala”. I’ve been married for five years and been a mom for three years; I still have so much to learn but I’m happy that I’m getting there.
How about you, can you say that you are a supermom? What makes you say so? I’d love to hear from you.